Involved in a Extra Marital Affair episode, who brings the most suffering to us? (Part 3 of 3)
By Papa Leow • 3 minute read
In Part 1 & 2 of the posts, I explored the inconsistencies in our love, and tried to point out how “I” actually caused my own woes in such an episode.
If we were to broaden the scope and carefully observe how we behave in life, we can easily see our love for ourselves in many aspects of Life. It is this love for ourselves, that propel us to think, act and realise what we desire.
Try observing for yourself.
Now, Fix (the) my problem.
I present the solutions:
Look inward and reflect, then move outward with compassion for others, placing others before self.
To do that, let us start with Observing Merit & Appreciate Kindness (OMAK) towards our loved ones, then extend it to our family, friends, colleagues, strangers, and eventually even to our “dreaded enemies” in life.
Essentially, we work to shrink ourselves (ego, wants, attention etc) as much, and place others before us. When we truly do so, our woes will start to diminish.
I must say that while I have not achieved the ultimate stage of placing everyone before me, I saw many tangible improvements in my Life, to name a few:
As I care for others’ needs, I become less greedy and worried over my personal matters.
I complain lesser about my own “predicaments”, because it either really is not an issue, or that having seen how others struggle, it made me more appreciative of my own situation in relativity.
I am more cautious of my own actions and consequences, because I realise my every little word and action can directly affect someone both negatively and positively.
As I try to help others more in their life, I became much more attentive and sensitive to little things in Life (world best dad, husband, partner, lover =P)
I definitely helped make someone’s day better on a more frequent basis.
My temper is so much better (The Wife can attest to that HAHA)
I am more energetic, and I make time to do things such as writing Blog Posts for the benefit of others. In turn, I reinforce my observation skills and learning, and it propels me forward.
I bicker lesser with my Wife and others, because I better understand their woes and always seek to empathise.
I appreciate the naggings by the Wife so much more, as I understand how and why she does certain things, with the ultimate aim of being good for the family. Instead of brushing her off, I would acknowledge, and try and change the next time round to prevent the next nagging by her! Sometimes, I can even predict the nagging when I think from her point of view, and that saves a lot of anguish for everyone!
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These are just some of my many practical, positive effects of my Practice. I sure hope it brings about motivation and trust in whoever is reading this.
Well by the time we end this post, I think there are 2 general outcomes by people reading this:
1. I saw some sense, I go observe, see if there is truth, and I try to apply these solution(s) consciously and actively (keep trying, for every little step forward is better than none taken), hoping to gain positive effects out of it.
2. I saw some sense, and these are just theories. I continue looking for more motivational quotes and talks, hoping to gain positive effects out of it.
I sure hope we try the former, progress forward together, and work towards a better tomorrow where there is less suffering, and more lasting, complete happiness for every being.
Every little step forward counts,
